Better self-understanding in relationships

Zazajoj

Lately I’ve noticed that a lot of misunderstandings in my relationships come from me not being fully aware of my own feelings. For example, sometimes I react quickly when I feel hurt, but later I realize it wasn’t even about the other person — it was just my own stress talking. I want to get better at understanding myself so I don’t project those emotions onto others. Has anyone found good ways or tools to help with this kind of self-awareness in relationships?

jek123

I’ve been in a similar place, where I didn’t always recognize what I was actually feeling until it was too late. What helped me was learning to pause and check in with myself, instead of jumping straight into a reaction. I came across what is liven while looking for resources, and it explained how people use daily reflections to track their emotions. I tried some of those practices, and over time I began to notice patterns — like when I felt insecure or defensive, it often had nothing to do with the other person. That awareness really changed how I communicate.

Zazajoj

It’s interesting reading through this because it reminds me how much relationships depend on self-reflection. Even outside of apps or tools, I think just taking time to sit with your own thoughts makes a difference. A lot of people rush through emotions without naming them, and then it all spills over. I guess the challenge is slowing down enough to listen to yourself before responding to someone else.

Diacabb

I think that only thanks to self reflection and working with a therapist I achieved big progress in my own life and also in relationships. A blog also helped me a lot, I still read it regularly, there are really many articles that are useful for me. The biggest problem was a relationship in which I was actually suffering. Only now I understand that it wasn’t love and not even infatuation, but dependence and hyperfixation on a person.